3 Reasons Disappointments Are His Appointments

“The ones who disappoint you need you the most.”

– Jack Hyles

The Ones We Love

Isn’t it true that the ones we love the most we hurt the most? It seems that way in life. But when you’re disappointed by someone you love, that is the exact time they need you the most. It is when someone faces a great disappointment that they need others to come alongside and comfort them. Paul wrote, “Therefore encourage one another with these words” (1 Thessalonians 4:18), and “build one another up, just as you are doing” (1 Thessalonians 5:11) already.

The Ones We Trust

When people we trust let us down, it seems to destroy our relationship with them. However, if we look at our own lives, there have been times when we’ve disappointed others and let them down when they were counting on us. Jesus said, “Let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No.’ For whatever is more than these is from the evil one” (Matthew 5:37). If you promise someone something, you must follow through or others will lose their trust in you.

The Ones We Hurt

The ones we’ve hurt may have hurt us first. It doesn’t matter. We can’t cut off that relationship just because we’ve been hurt. If that happened universally, no one in the world would be friends. Friends sometimes hurt their friends by speaking the truth, but the truth is, “faithful are the wounds of a friend; profuse are the kisses of an enemy” (Proverbs 27:6). Wouldn’t you rather have your friend hurt you if necessary by telling you the truth than flatter you with lies and you go on in error.


Jack Hyles was so right when he said that the ones who disappoint you need you the most. Those whom we love the most we hurt the most. We trust those who may let us down, so we must be trustworthy. If it means hurting our friend’s feelings by telling him or her the truth, so be it. We love them enough to tell them the truth.